Service: Learn about and practice good manners and courtesy
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One thing I love about the suggestions in the manual - they are basic enough to let you be able to take an idea and run with it! There are also blank spaces for you to be able to come up with something absolutely unique that fits in one of the main categories. That just leaves so much room for creativity!
Needed:
tablecloth and table decorations (optional)
plates, utensils, glasses, napkins - enough for all children attending
healthy meal
tokens - can be pieces of paper, plastic coins, etc
small treats or prizes
This was my first activity with my kids after I was called to lead the program. I already knew most of them pretty well from primary and thought they were a great group, but could be very rough and rowdy when all together. I wanted to try something fun that would remind them how to act more civilized when the occasion calls for it! I told their parents not to feed them dinner before since they would be fed at the activity. My counselor and I got there a little early to push the tables together and set up. We made it look fancy enough so they would feel that this was something special, but obviously didn't bring anything valuable or too breakable. We brought a simple, nutritious meal: chicken, rice, peas and carrots, bread rolls and jugs of water to drink. Before even going into the room where the meal was waiting, the kids were instructed that once in that room their manners would be watched! They were to act on their best behavior, for this was a special meal. Every time my counselor or I saw them doing something kind, courteous or using good manners, they would receive a token. These tokens could be exchanged at the end of the evening for treats! (anything that is linked to treats or anything that lets the kids be competitive is almost always a hit). Instead of concentrating on arbitrary rules of etiquette, such as elbows on tables, we decided to concentrate on kindness and service. Not all children are taught the more proper forms of etiquette in their homes and while that can be advantageous to know, it seemed more appropriate to emphasize aspects of manners that are grounded in the concern and care of those around us.
The kids loved it! They really got into thinking of others before themselves and comically exaggerated their manners to make sure to get a token! There were lots of "can I offer you some peas?" and "would you like another roll?" One boy was a little sad at the beginning because he had just had some dental work done and couldn't eat anything, but soon, he decided that he would be the one to pour and refill everyone's water and he worked tirelessly throughout the meal to accomplish this. They may have been motivated primarily by the lollies, but I had never seen a better behaved bunch of kids; it was difficult to catch up with all of the tokens that needed to be awarded! In the end, they lined up to exchange their tokens, and I saw that even though the competition was over, they were still in good-manners mode: sharing their lollies with each other, letting someone go in line ahead of them, speaking kindly. It's the kind of activity I could probably do once a year, just to help them brush up on their manners!